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Wedding Pro Cass & Game Show Garrett

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Episode 5 is hitting the road with a travel theme! From a destination wedding to  things you should absolutely knot being doing when traveling. Tune in to hear about the crazy aunt, our hot takes, and our VIP Table: travel niches.

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SPEAKER_00

Welcome to episode five of the Absolutely Not, another podcast. I am Mr. Cassie, and alongside me is Wedding Procast. Wedding Procast. Miss Cass.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

I like I like your new title, so we're fine calling you that.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Everyone else seems to be fine with it as well. AKA Game Show Garrett. AKA Game Show Garrett. AKA Daddy. Oh Lord. Sorry, we'll delete that.

SPEAKER_02

Don't delete that.

SPEAKER_00

Kids call me that. So you know. Only the kids.

SPEAKER_03

Daddy loves burgs.

SPEAKER_00

So uh welcome back for those that have been tuning in. Thank you for listening or viewing us.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, we've gotten a lot of like really good feedback and comments on our Facebook and our social. So thank you for that. And a lot of uh reviews on Spotify and Apple podcasts.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. A lot of like I like the comments that come in, and a lot of them have followed you from your skits, your situations that you do online. So it's great to see that they're following you to your next journey.

SPEAKER_03

Yes.

SPEAKER_00

I appreciate that. Appreciate that a lot.

SPEAKER_03

And we're back today, and we just attended a wedding over the weekend. So I feel we're like ready to debrief on that situation.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Great time. It was your cousin. Yes. And he was the bell of the ball beside besides his wife besides his wife. But my goodness, that man was living it up on the dance floor. He was he took his jacket off. He was unbuttoning his shirt. Unbuttoning his shirt. His uh white button down was just dripped head to toe.

SPEAKER_03

I feel like that's a sign of a good, a good wedding. Like the dancer was packed the whole time.

SPEAKER_00

Her friends will be out there on the dance floor. The groom, the groomsmen, the friends, like the men. Whenever there's a group of guys that are out there enjoying their time, oh my goodness. That's what makes that's what make it breaks it, in my opinion.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not like a big dance circle person. Like, I don't like to get in the middle of a dance circle. Not that I don't like to watch, but like, don't call me out there. I'm in a formal dress. I can't really show my true moves. But there was a lot of good dance circles with some hilarious moments out there.

SPEAKER_02

And Garrett really, he got the spotlight.

SPEAKER_00

Well, before my own spotlight for it, the one person would do the dance when they get on the ground, but then they're going in a circle with their fingers and toes. I don't know how people can pull that off. But it was not uh requested by me. But if you were listening to what I think it was maybe episode two of Songs That Get You on the Dance Floor, Keep You On the Dance Floor, one of my honorable mentions was crank that soldier boy. The brief backstory is I do it every time. I have to do it every time I am at a function that has a DJ at.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

But my brother-in-law went up to the DJ and requested it unbeknownst to me. It then comes on. Everyone has tuned in or saw the clip of me talking about that.

SPEAKER_03

The song is Soldier Boy. I wish we recorded it, your performance on the dance boy.

SPEAKER_00

Maybe on that camcorder that we had. It was good. I did not know at the time. From my point of view, I thought it was just your family that we were dancing with in front of me that were tuning in. Apparently, it was everyone. It was a wedding, wedding-wide performance. Yeah. You nailed it. I have been an officiant at a wedding before. Two weddings. No free ads, officials. But the officiant of the wedding, I went up to him and congratulated him, thought we did a great job. And then he was like, You did a great job too. I'm like, what do you mean? And then he saw me do the soldier boy.

SPEAKER_02

Like, oh that's what you're going to be remembered as. They're like, remember that guy? He was just doing the soldier boy blast of a wedding.

SPEAKER_00

When it comes to the overall weekend, the Friday is one of my favorite parts, if not my favorite part, when you are traveling in for a wedding. Oh, yeah. And you're meeting up with everyone at the hotel bar, laughing, having a good time, and closing the bar down like we did. Yeah, we closed the bar down.

SPEAKER_03

And I met a fan at the bar. That was really fun.

SPEAKER_00

Overall, the city of Cincinnati, very impressed.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. We walked the river. That was fun. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Walked the river. Checked out. I'm not like a Reds fan. Reds fan or Bengals fan. Not even close. If I were to be one of those fans and I would go to that city, thoroughly would have enjoyed it.

SPEAKER_01

My grandma was hitting on you most of the weekend. So that was also a highlight. Yeah. Gosh, I'm blushing over that actually.

SPEAKER_00

Yikes stripes, grandma. But no for yats, grandma. Overall, great wedding weekend. It was we traveled into it. We took a rental car. Which sparked our idea for this episode. Excited. It's a uh the story is travel-based.

Destination Wedding

SPEAKER_00

Some of our segments are travel-based.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. All of them are all like travel-based destination wedding, that sort of theme.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

If you have a good story that you want to submit, it doesn't have to be a wedding story. Please submit it to infow at weddingprocast.com. You guys have been doing such a good job. We get like, I don't know, five to ten stories a day, and they're all really incredible. Um, just put story submission in the subject line so that we know how to flag it and then read it. All right, we're gonna get into the story. And the story today is brought to you by Guest Lens. If you're getting married this year, I have something that you're gonna love. It is named Guest Lens. It's the number one digital guest book for your wedding, and honestly, it is a game changer. They create a private QR code just for your event. Your guests can upload photos all day long, everything from getting ready moments to dance floor chaos, and it all saves directly to your own private gallery in full resolution. Best part, no app is needed. It's so easy for your guests to use at your wedding. They also have beautiful pre-made templates and landing pages that match your wedding theme or can be customized, making the whole experience feel super elevated and seamless. Use code WeddingProCast at checkout for a discount. I really got my ad voice on there. All right, we're gonna dive into the story. It is a destination wedding, and they sent like a little note in the beginning. So I'm gonna read that. Okay. It says, huge fan to all that you do. My wife and I listen to your stories every night, and we hope to see ours one day. Here we go. You're gonna see and hear it. My name is Jake, and my my wife will be Emma for this story. We did change the names and the location to protect everybody. However, if you were at a guest, if you were a guest at this wedding, you you will know. This is the story about how my aunt Linda almost ruined our destination wedding twice. I proposed in December of 2023, and we immediately let everyone know that we were going to do a destination wedding in Mexico in July of 2025. Emma is a teacher, so summertime is the best fit for us. We love traveling and couldn't imagine getting married anywhere else. We wanted to give everybody ample time to plan and save if they were going to attend our wedding day. We were sure to tell everybody no pressure as we understood the monetary commitment in traveling out of the country, but we also were not willing to budge on location. Fair. Everyone, family and friends, responded joyfully, and some already knowing that they wouldn't be able to attend, let us know early on. We were not offended at all by this. At Thanksgiving 2024, so this is almost a year later, my aunt Linda pulled me aside to ask about the wedding, saying she was getting stressed about booking since she hadn't heard anything from us. I assured her the resort was safe and there was a block. She could call or go online to book her room. I texted her the information right there, even though she had already received it twice. Later, at dessert, she asked if that was the confirmation for her room. And I responded, no, she would need to be booking her own room. She nearly choked on her pumpkin pie and looked at me baffled. Why would I be paying for my own room? You invited me, and I figured you were paying for the room. We all started laughing, and we thought she was joking. I reminded her that she has to go and book the room. It's very easy. They're $275 a night, and food and drink are included at the resort.

SPEAKER_00

Sidebar pumpkin pie outstanding.

SPEAKER_03

Love pumpkin pie. She called me the next day following up, asking for an ocean view suite. I again told her that she can do this on her own, and she pushed back, saying it was so rude to assume that everybody could afford to attend. And if we didn't plan on covering all of the guests' rooms and flights, that we should have booked something at the local hotel in town. It was unfair that she was going to have to waste PTO and money on a flight and apply for a passport. I told her if it's too much, we totally understand and to just decline. She would not have that. I explained that that's part of the reason we announced we were doing a destination wedding so early on. So there was plenty of time to do those things, apply for the passport, and decide if it would monetarily work for each family. She just straight up hung up on me, so I figured she's a no for the wedding. I told Emma that she's not going to be attending. Who in their right mind thinks that someone's paying for the flights in the room? I don't know. When I read this, that made me laugh. A couple months later, she made a Facebook post about being inconsiderate about others' living situations. We were not tagged, but I figured it was about me and Emma. I wasn't going to confront her because honestly, it wasn't worth it. We sent our official invitations out in February with an RSVP deadline in early May. We did not hear anything back from her. So again, I had her marked as a no. We were not upset that she would not that she would be missing the wedding. I didn't follow up to confirm that she was a no. He's like, please don't go.

SPEAKER_00

And her doing like a subliminal Facebook post.

SPEAKER_02

The worst.

SPEAKER_00

Just if you have something to say about somebody, do not post it on social media. Just go directly to the source. Right. No one wants to get into family drama, personal drama.

SPEAKER_03

It's like they were on the phone having a conversation and he's explaining it to her. And then she just hangs up. Like, not coming. We get together at my parents for Memorial Day, and she tells me that she's looking forward to the wedding. I was very confused because she never RSVP'd and she's not on our hotel room list. We were making the custom bags and ordering things for those bags, so we were very aware of who was staying at the hotel and how many people would be attending. She responded in front of everyone that due to my expensive taste and disregard for anyone else but myself, she had to spend her savings on flights and an Airbnb for her and her family. I never asked her to do that. And also, why didn't she just RSVP yes if she was planning to attend? True. I told her that I was sorry that she spent all that money. She didn't have to, but we were very happy that she could make it. I asked her why she didn't RSVP, and she said, Your online website sucks. And when I went to RSVP for myself, Ron, Jerry, Kate, and Belinda, it kept giving us an error message. So I stopped trying and figured I would just tell you in person, but I kept forgetting. I love the names they picked because they're just so random. I said, Who is Kate, Jerry, and Belinda? She responded, You know these are Uncle Ron's kids, your stepcousins. Literally, I've never met them as an adult. Did not know them at all because my aunt and Uncle Ron got married late in life. Maybe I chatted with them a few times at a few cookouts. She said the website must have a virus, but they all would be at the wedding. I told her again in front of everyone that her and Uncle Ron were invited, but unfortunately not her stepkids. She got pissed, stormed off to the bathroom, and then came out not saying a word the whole entire night to me. At the end of the party, I helped her take things to her car and she said, it would be it would have been nice to know that they were not invited. I guess we will have to make plans for them while we are away at the wedding that day. Mind you, these kids are 20 in their twenties. I'm sure they would be happy to make plans for themselves. I responded and said, The envelope and the invitation were both addressed to just you and Ron. That is a very clear way of showing you who is invited and who isn't. She rolled her eyes and that was it. I didn't hear from her until one week from our wedding. And I added her and Ron to the guest list and continued on.

SPEAKER_00

Them going to a destination, it's great for those three stepkids to go somewhere for a vacation. Right. So it's not to say no, they can't go there.

unknown

Right.

SPEAKER_00

You just can't go to the wedding.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, and you can't assume that your stepkids are going to be invited to something like that. Especially if the couple themselves is saying, like, we don't have a relationship with them, we don't see them, we don't really talk to them. Why would they then be invited to a destination wedding?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

It's usually like more intimate. Before the trip, she asked me to send them all of the information, the wedding details, rehearsal dinner, and anything else because she wasn't going to waste money paying for an international phone plan. Mistake. I texted over everything, and I even sent her an email. She then asked for the shuttle information. I told her. We didn't know where she was staying or her flight information. We were not paying for shuttles, but I would be happy to help her arrange if she gave me that information, but she never responded. All I know is I did my job and got her the information for the wedding and the night before. Note for the story: the night before is an all-white attire party. The wedding weekend arrives. Weather in Mexico is beautiful. All our guests start arriving, and we are kicking off with the welcome reception. Cocktails, desserts, and an open bar right on the water. Again, it was an all-white attire. Emma and I were the only ones wearing blue. Linda and Ron didn't show up, so I figured they were just staying with Ron's kids at the Airbnb. About 30 minutes before the end of the party, the hostel staff member comes to ask me about a Ron, Linda, Jerry, Kate, and Belinda. They had some very mad guests being held in the lobby. I told them it was fine to send them down because I had no clue Ron's kids were coming. They weren't on the approved guest list, so the whole group ended up being held in the lobby until we approved. I felt bad about this, but again, they could have just stayed at the hotel and they wouldn't have to be added to a special list. And also, it's one thing if Uncle Ron and Aunt Linda are coming to the wedding. But then why bring your three kids if they're not invited?

SPEAKER_00

You're just adding problems for no reason. Yeah. Like you're you're you're the one that's walking in some of the issues.

SPEAKER_03

Zero there would have been zero issues if just them two walked in because they're on the approved list. It's a private resort. When they walk down the stairs, they are in casual clothes, all with colors, but white. And Aunt Linda is mad mad. She marches over to me and says, They got lost in this stupid country. Nobody speaks English here, and they look dumb in their clothes because they had no clue they were supposed to wear white, and she doesn't really want to stay long now. Rude.

SPEAKER_00

Starting to know exactly what type of person Aunt Linda is.

SPEAKER_03

Aunt Linda's no good. I said, good, the party ends in 30. I was so annoyed I passed her off to my parents to deal with. She got some wine and hung out at a high top the rest of the party, not even saying congratulations to me or Emma. I'm not sure why they wore wore colors. All of the information I sent via email and text showed the attire for Friday and Saturday's festivities. She was very angry because at the end of the night we took a group photo and we asked them to step out of the last photo so we could get all the white outfits and then us in the color blue. It's like maybe you shouldn't have done that. Adding fuel to the fire. My mom was trying to be kind and did give them a welcome bag that we had extra so they felt more included. The next day, the wedding rolls around, and we're doing a morning ceremony at 10 a.m., a break during the day, and then an evening beach party reception. Again, Aunt Linda had all of this information. She even had the printout from the welcome bag. You couldn't miss it. I'm standing at the arch on the beach, waiting for my beautiful bride Emma to walk down the aisle, and I hear, wait, wait, wait, we're coming. I see my aunt and uncle running down the beach. She's waving her hands around like a psycho saying, These people don't understand. I told them they have to let us in. Why does no one speak English here?

unknown

Rude.

SPEAKER_03

Not good. The music dies down and they scurry into their seats. A lot of commotion before a very emotional and special moment, ruined by my wacky aunt. Emma starts to walk down the aisle and all the craziness melts away. And we get married. It wasn't until I saw pictures from our photographer that I noticed three people in bathing suits creeping up onto the beach watching the ceremony. They were in the background. It was Ron's kids. I guess at the reception, Linda was fighting with the staff trying to get her to add three more spots for his kids, but my mom intercepted the whole thing and told her no. She could enjoy the night with just her and Ron, or she would have them escorted off the resort. The staff later told my mom they nicknamed her Devil Lady because of how she was treating everyone. I changed her in my phone to Devil Lady and have kept it like that for the last six years.

SPEAKER_00

That's like going to a uh restaurant or and you're with somebody that's acting rude. If you are like in the hospitality serving industry, if you're like right on the receipt, that's what they did.

SPEAKER_03

Like, oh my. One, it's like you're in another country or at this resort. There is no need to be rude to the staff or the culture that's going on there.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Going anywhere for a wedding, I am going to stay at wherever is on the wedding website that I can navigate easily, not like Linda, wherever they recommend. Unless it's a place that doesn't offer maybe like a shuttle service. And I'm thinking to myself, oh, or if it's close by and it's in the mountains by us, we can get an Airbnb and like have a nice weekend and bring the kids down if they're probably not invited to and enjoy ourselves. Right. But to go to another country and not stay at probably an all-inclusive resort. I'm just that's what the story made it seem.

SPEAKER_03

I'm assuming they did change the location, but like still.

SPEAKER_00

Like, why wouldn't you do that? Why would you not stay stay where they've planned?

SPEAKER_03

And it's like they did that at the resort for convenience for themselves and for their guests. And then she causes unnecessary problems by staying at an Airbnb and bringing people that were not invited.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Triple whamming herself, double whamming herself. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

And like who interrupts a ceremony?

SPEAKER_00

He's getting emotional knowing it's about to be like one of, if not the biggest moment of his life. So far. So far. And to have that squandered by Anne Linda.

SPEAKER_03

We're here. Stop the ceremony.

SPEAKER_00

If I was in his shoes at that point, like, oh my goodness, this cannot be happening right now.

SPEAKER_03

It does remind me, though, of my sister's wedding. And I don't know if you remember this, but like we started the processional, and my grandpa was just like nowhere to be found. He hadn't like arrived. Someone was supposed to bring him, they didn't, and we weren't gonna delay any longer. And so that was the officiant. Yeah, you were the officiant. But like, remember everybody went down the aisle and it was like right before my sister walks down, and we're like, we see my grandpa walking outside, R. I P, he's not alive anymore.

SPEAKER_02

But we're like, there's grandpa. Everybody hold.

SPEAKER_03

Like we get him in the door, and then like he walks down the aisle and we're all just clapping. Like that was more of like a joyous moment that grandpa made it. This is like, oh, Aunt Linda's here. Why? I would have banned her from coming after how she was acting.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I've never been to a destination wedding before. It's on my bucket list.

Absolutely Knot

SPEAKER_03

I know. We had the chance possibly this year, but it didn't work out with kids in life and just other plans we had going on.

SPEAKER_00

And congratulations to them. Got to see him this weekend at the wedding.

SPEAKER_03

We'll miss it. We're moving on to absolutely not, my favorite segment. And this week we're going along with the theme. So we're doing travel edition, and I'll be asking the questions. Garrett's gonna be giving us his response. Putting an important document or item into a checked bag.

SPEAKER_00

I would say absolutely not on the grand scheme of things of like if you're traveling for work, I'm someone that runs team building events. So there are important things that I'm putting into a check bag because it just cannot fit in my carry-on. But it's a lot of random materials that if for some reason something happens to it, I'm able to get that whenever I get to wherever location that I'm going to. But if you're traveling, let's say it's for a wedding and you have like the marriage certificate or the wedding dress. If I'm connecting, I'm doing whatever I can in my power to like every important thing is with me at all times.

SPEAKER_03

Agreed. I feel like that's travel 101. You cannot put important things in the bag because it's not guaranteed it's gonna make it to the destination.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and if it's small enough, I'm putting it in my backpack that goes underneath the seat. Yeah. Rather than if I'm like a late group and then I might have to gate check my bag, then I get nervous again.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I know that like obviously it's leaving from right outside going into the plane and going right down in North. But then if you never know. I'm not like I don't I don't see it physically going into the plane.

SPEAKER_01

So I agree. Eating something risky the night before a big trip.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, you just can't be doing that. I've traveled and we like go to nice places.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

And I I peruse the menu enough to say like which one gives me gas, which one's gonna like really keep me up late. Or if I'm traveling, like maybe I have an early morning flight. One of like the worst feelings in the world is to have to go number two on the plane.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, it's terrible. It's like you're clenching big time. Yeah, like I can make it.

SPEAKER_00

And like you're clenching more than just like letting that thing come out of you. It's just letting out gas.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, and also you don't want to like ruin the people around you's travel experience.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. And I'm a preferred. Uh window seat person, even though I'm not a or I'm afraid of heights. But like if I do have to go, like I feel bad even telling the person next to me, like, hey, do you mind if I like I gotta use the restroom and now you have to sit over it? There was one or like like, can you move over? There's a time I traveled with my dad to see the Daytona 500, and it's one of the funniest moments of my life. Of he's on the aisle seat, and we had someone in between us. Like, we were hoping that we can not have someone, not have someone in between us. And it was a young lady, she had to use the restroom, and my dad just like didn't get up. So she's just straddling over him. Like she she straddled over him, went to use the restroom, and then he came, she came back, or while she was gone. I was like, Dad, like you gotta, you gotta get up. He was like, What do you mean? Like, I'm I'm comfortable. I'm like, no, you have to, and you know what he did? He didn't get up when she came back and she did it again. If she did a front word straddle, like she's facing him on the terrible, terrible.

SPEAKER_02

I would have been laughing so long.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, I was like, Dad, you can't be doing that.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, absolutely not.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, don't need anything risky and get up when someone needs to use surrender.

SPEAKER_03

Correct. Okay. Taking the shortcut if it pops up on Google Maps.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, if it's local or if I know the area, like, oh yeah, that probably is a good thing. We actually had that issue today. Yeah, we're on our way here and it popped up on Route 28. If you're from Pittsburgh, you know all the fiasco that goes with Route 28 and 51 is another issue. I kind of knew where we were going, but at some point I didn't. But like you're familiar to like a point where you can find the area. If I'm out of town and it suggests another way and it like takes me off the beaten path, I don't know where I'm going.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, it doesn't really matter. Lifting the armrest in between you and a stranger on the plane.

SPEAKER_00

I don't even lift the armrest for people that I know, let alone a stranger. So absolutely not. If you want it lifted up, maybe that person wants it down. Yeah. There are rules to the armrest. Okay. If you have someone in the middle seat, that person, I think, gets first pick at wanting to put their arms up because they're already put in a very awkward, uncomfortable situation, awkward situation. If you're the window seat, aisle seat, window seat, you can scooch over. Absolutely not.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I the only time I lift it is like if we have the kids flying with us. Right. Sleeping with the decorative blanket or the bed runner at the hotel.

SPEAKER_00

Depends on the hotel, maybe. If I'm like staying at a four diamond, I might use it, but anything less, maybe doing that.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I also I don't know if you remember like early on, or like when we we both got our starts in hospitality, like in the hotel industry. But like I remember shadowing housekeeping and then being like, yeah, we obviously they replace all the sheets, but like the bed runner, like the blanket, if it's at the end of the bed, they don't wash it. So I'm like, you don't know what was going on in there before you got into the room. Like, I think one of the things I'll do is like put it on the floor or like move it. And I maybe only wrap up in that if I'm had way too many drinks and I think it's the regular blanket.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, it's uh like very niche thing. It's not a part like we're doing VIP table of niche things later. It's a very niche thing that is uncomfortable for me, but they tuck in the beds too well. So like when I try to get into the bed, like I like a nice little untucked bed when I'm sleeping. Like it's like takes forever just to like get everything undone from the bed when I'm ready to go to sleep. The second niche thing is I love like going to new places and seeing new things, but going to bed in a hotel, the pillows, it doesn't matter what type of hotel you're at. Like, I never look forward more to sleeping in my own bed than I do because of the pillows, more than anything. Agreed. Like it's just is never comfortable enough for me to like have a good night's sleep.

SPEAKER_03

Agreed. Okay. Entering a road trip with pure vibes and no prepared playlist.

SPEAKER_00

Personally, absolutely not.

SPEAKER_02

I was gonna say, I feel like for you, that was the easiest one.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I plan playlists, not even for like road trips. I plan it for weekends. Yeah. Just to like get my mind going on something. If I like, oh, we're going for a holiday to my parents, your parents, people are coming up. I make a playlist for who's coming. Yes, specific. Like, oh, these people like this type of music. Let me throw this on the playlist, or these people don't like this type of music. Uh, like, I'll let a couple in there slide just to like make sure that I get my vibes going.

SPEAKER_03

Like, if I'm going on a road trip with you, I know for a fact I'm not getting the aux cord. Like, don't even ask.

SPEAKER_00

You'll ask for record, like suggested.

SPEAKER_03

For certain songs, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

And I'll allow it to a point. Sometimes I'll make the playlist, but I have backup playlists ready to like go.

SPEAKER_03

The vibes aren't good, you're swapping it.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. One hour into it, and we've been kind of having a very eclectic playlist going on that's hitting all the genres. And then you might be like, hey, let's throw on some like show tunes. I got that ready. I did say that. Or you just want country, or you just want I have a playlist that's like uh it's titled Gee Billy, I can't wait to go to hike school. And it's all like my emo stuff.

SPEAKER_03

I can't. That's hilarious. Booking a hotel with a free breakfast.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, this is an absolutely yes for me, especially when traveling.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Because of a per diem. If I'm traveling with a company that's offering per diem. Oh, for work. I am going to breakfast at 6 a.m. I'll wake up early enough to get a nice good meal. Then I go back to my room, freshen up, get what I need to get started for the day, and then I go back. And then I take the fruit easy to go with me. So then I'm spending zero dollars on breakfast. Then I'm spending zero dollars on lunch. So when I finish what I'm doing at a work event, work trip, and I have $75, $100, whatever the per diem is, all for my food and beverage for dinner. And am I still gonna hit the $75? Probably not. I'm still cognizant. I'm not gonna get like the ribeye steak. But you can splurge a little. I can splurge a little and I can get an appetizer.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I also I also feel like traveling with kids, it's nice to have a free breakfast because if we go out somewhere, like you order them food, they're not eating it.

SPEAKER_00

They have like two bites, and I'm like, well, it always gets me is there's a lot of hotels that might have a breakfast, lunch, dinner place on site. And it costs money to do so. Yes. But it the room itself costs the same amount of money as a place that has the free breakfast, and the rooms are exactly the same. There's nothing much different. Like instead of getting very small soap and conditioner, you're getting the preset bottles in the shower.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

That's really the difference. If I had the opportunity to stay at either or free breakfast all the way.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

All right, I'm gonna ask you one more from this list. Book a flight with a 20-minute layover.

SPEAKER_00

I don't even think that's possible to be able to maybe 30 minutes. Yeah. I look at situations if I'm traveling somewhere again for work. When it comes to like us traveling with kids, if we have a direct flight option, obviously I'm gonna take it. And if it costs more, I'm doing it just for like to get the stress out of me. If we're flying with or if we have the opportunity to fly with kids with a connecting flight or drive, I'm probably gonna pick the driving because the stress level of it. But if I'm traveling for work and it's uh 30-minute layover, 40-minute layover, I don't know how that airport might be handling things. And I don't know what weather situation is gonna be like that day. If I'm booking like a month out, two weeks out, one week out.

SPEAKER_03

Or if your plane's delayed. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

And it's just a level of stress that I don't want to deal with.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

We talked about it last episode of if you have a connecting flight and the flight attendant's like, hey, uh, there's people on the flight that need to get to their gate. So if you can let them through, I hate being that type of person that is in that situation. Yeah. I don't want to be running through the airport to make it there. I've only had it happen to me one time where I didn't make my connecting flight, which turned out well. I got stuck in Philadelphia and we have close friends that are there. And I met them after a Phillies game and all good. All right, our next segment is Wedding You Rather, returning from the first episode. Since we did the destination

Wedding You Rather

SPEAKER_00

story, and our absolute knot was kind of travel-based as well. This one, also travel based. Love it. Wedding You Rather. This or that.

SPEAKER_03

Got it.

SPEAKER_00

Mountain elopement in Colorado or a chapel wedding in Vegas with Elvis as the officiant.

SPEAKER_03

I think a lot of people would pick Vegas, but I'm 100% picking the elopement in the mountains.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not a Vegas girly. The scenery in Colorado, I'm sure, would be like stunning for an elopement. Have you ever been to Colorado? I've never been. You've been.

SPEAKER_00

I like it. I went one time and went too far up into the mountains, and I felt like I was gonna pass out. Yeah. So heights. Not for you. Not for me. I was already up a mile a mile high. We went a little bit higher, and I just like would not have that happen to me at all. But having yeah, like a mountain view for us, we are in the Appalachian, Appalachian, depending on where you're from, I guess. And those are some of the favorite weddings that I attend. You wouldn't want Elvis to No.

SPEAKER_03

Well, I know your family like has an Elvis thing, but for me personally, no.

SPEAKER_00

I wouldn't say necessarily like the choice of Colorado or Vegas is dependent on Elvis being the officiant. That's like a cliche thing to do when you're in Vegas. Yeah. Just like more so Vegas, Colorado. No rain on wedding day, but there are bugs everywhere. Or there is unbearable heat.

SPEAKER_03

Ooh. I think honestly, I would go with unbearable heat. Yeah. Like I hate bugs. Bugs of all kinds. Like when we lived in Florida, the gnosiums, the mosquitoes, like, no. I would rather just be sweaty and hot and like have a fan than have bugs flying around me.

SPEAKER_00

At the same time, this question poses that like when there is unbearable heat and you're in Florida, there's more likely than not bugs. Up north, not as much. Depends on where you're at. Yeah, it depends on like where you're getting married. You're in the mountains, might be more bugs. You're in the mountains. Everyone stays at the same hotel, or everyone books their own hotels because there is no room block.

SPEAKER_03

We kind of touched on this, but like definitely stay at the hotel, like with everybody else. My favorite part like of kicking off a wedding weekend is just like seeing people at the hotel. You go to the hotel bar, you're catching up. It is such a perk to be in the same place as everybody else because you get like another event without having to plan one.

SPEAKER_00

Like I enjoyed that first night, not even being a part of the wedding itself to just catch up with everyone that we see often, but some people we haven't seen on a regular basis, and you're just having a good time. Your grandma was one of them that really look forward to seeing me on that one. But if you do an Airbnb, you're probably doing it with a group of people that you're close with, and then you have fun with them. Like not saying that the second option isn't good, but the first option. I prefer the first. Your dress has to get gate checked, or you miss your flight on your way to the wedding.

SPEAKER_03

I just gate check my dress, honestly. I don't want to miss my flight and like have to wait a whole day, which that happens to a lot of people, especially if they're having destination weddings. You have to like sh you have to travel in like at least three days earlier in case you run into those issues of like you miss something, something doesn't make it in time. You never want to be like traveling in the day before because then you're screwed.

SPEAKER_00

You might have to start road tripping.

SPEAKER_03

Right. Thank you.

SPEAKER_00

That would be great memories once you get through it and you look back on it.

SPEAKER_03

Not if it's a long distance.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Like if we were when we got married, we moved, or we moved, we lived in Florida and the wedding was in Canton, Ohio. Yeah. We didn't have a direct flight to Canton, from what I remember. I think we did connecting to Atlanta, but we got in maybe three days before the wedding. Yeah. Gate checking is not as stressful as checking a bag as you're checking in to the airport than before you go through security. So you have a sense of, okay, I'm right by the plane. But there's still like a little bit of stress about whatever you're dropping off.

SPEAKER_03

The handle of like how they're gonna handle a wedding dress is like delicate sometimes. I remember when I flew, I had to fly with my with my dress. I went to the desk and I asked, like, can I hang this in the first class? They have like places where you can hang jackets or suits, and they let me do that. And that's what a lot of people that fly with their wedding dress will do. But if it's filled by first class people and they don't want to give up their space, then like you might have to gate check something like that, or like lay it in the overhead bins, which can scrunch it or like make the dress, you know, not as nice as you'd like for traveling.

SPEAKER_00

I'm not traveling with the wedding dress, but if I find myself and I have to fly like a uh airline that I don't have like a perk with, let's say it's Delta. Let's say it's frontier. No, no free ads, Delta. Say it's Delta. And I check in 24 hours before and I'm group eight. And I know I'm going to like Atlanta, which is a huge hub of Delta. I know I'm gonna have to gate check my bag already.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

When I hear on the intercom that we're doing check bags, I instantly go up because then they bump you to like a better seat. Not a better seat. Sometimes I do better seat, but you get bumped up in like group. And there's something about me wanting to be on like earlier that it's just a niche thing. It's not on my list. Yeah, you're don't spill your things. It's not on my list. Okay, good. Maybe it will be. It should have been on my list. It might actually be on my list. All inclusive resort wedding out of the country or a three-day cruise ship wedding.

SPEAKER_03

I'm doing the all-inclusive, I think, out of the country. Just because for the sake that some people cannot get on a boat. Facts. I like a cruise. Like I would love to go to a cruise wedding, but like some people cannot do cruises because of like motion sickness, and I wouldn't want somebody to miss my wedding because of that.

SPEAKER_00

If it's an easy, there's no impacting weather, it's really not an issue. But if it's you get off the boat and you have to get on that dinghy, ooh, buddy. Something. I have some bad memories on a dinghy boat. Small intimate wedding or a big chaotic wedding.

SPEAKER_03

I think even now I would choose a big chaotic wedding. But we're like both. It's definitely gonna be based on like a couple, what their preferences are. But like for us, I would say like big chaotic wedding. Like we like, we have big families, we're around a lot of people a lot of the time, and like that's what I would want.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, prefer the big one, but we did go to a small, intimate one that was on the beach. Yeah, close friends, close family of the couple, and loved it. Loved it. They rented out a big, massive Airbnb and just had the time of our lives.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Golden hour portraits or first look in the garden.

SPEAKER_03

Golden hour portrait. I like a sunset. I'm also I like a first look for the sense of like a relaxed timeline, but for us, we didn't do a first look and we waited to see each other. So that would like nix a first look. Some people just don't want to do the first look. But I love golden hour photos, or if you're not into the golden hour, you're getting married in the winter, like a champagne shower photo, those are really fun.

SPEAKER_00

We did not do like a first look until you were walking down the year. So that's like makes it more special and for me personally. Like I didn't cry. Cry like a baby. Cry like a baby. All right, last one. Guests show up late and miss the ceremony, or guests arrive early and hover around, not sure what to do.

SPEAKER_03

I would rather people arrive early, honestly. Like not purposefully arrive early, but if somebody comes early and they choose to come early, then like that's on them. But I would rather them be there for that big moment and like not miss me actually like getting married, because at the end of the day, although people are there to celebrate at the reception, the main thing they're there is to witness you getting married.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

If they want to have nothing to do, then so be it. It's like traveling and you end up early to an airport and like the security line isn't as long as you anticipated, you're still gonna make it.

SPEAKER_03

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SPEAKER_00

Very broad question. It's a tough one. For me, now that they are like getting a little bit older, yeah. Our son, it's seeing his personality shine on certain things and his interest. Like this kid right now is interested in turkeys and ducks, tornadoes, tornadoes, yeah, planets, the titans of Hercules. The main thing I would say for me personally on it is he picks up on things that I'm trying to make a tradition for us. So when we go to bed, I was always asking him, What was your favorite thing of today? Because my mom did that to me. Like, what did we like to do today? But I just ask him, not the same way, of what was your favorite thing of today? And he'll do it and then he'll ask me, I have to give something else. Because Yeah, it can't be the same thing. It cannot be the same thing. I've done that before, and he's like, No, you gotta pick something else. I'm like, Well, I like that. And then I just have to go on a whim on whatever it is. If we go see grandma, that's always his favorite thing. If he's going to see other people besides us, that's his favorite thing. Our daughter is sassy. Sassy, my goodness. But she is, she'll come up and just first thing in the morning give a nice warm hug.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, she's a snuggler.

SPEAKER_00

Or if we haven't seen her for a few hours and then we get home, she loves seeing us and she loves being around us. I like seeing them two interact now that they're both in that toddler phase. Yeah, they're two and four, so it's like a good matchup. Yeah, they're having a great time until one of them gets mad at the other. Yeah. But it's funny to kind of just see their relationship grow too.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I think I have to agree. Like, I love to see their personalities and interests and like how they react to things. Like they get super excited over certain certain things that they're into or like certain people that they get to see. Like, I love that. And it's really rewarding as a parent to get to witness like our kids just having like a happy life.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I like that. Okay. The other personal question we had was you mentioned you have dogs. Tell me about your fur babies.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, we got three.

SPEAKER_03

Yes.

SPEAKER_00

We had our first dog right after we moved to Florida, our chocolate lab. So he is now 11 going on 12.

SPEAKER_03

Bo.

SPEAKER_00

Bo. And he's my right hand man.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Like we that he does everything with me. Ab sleeps next to me, sits next to me when I use the restroom.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, he's like your little shadow.

SPEAKER_00

I get home from working or I get home from the gym and he gets all spruced up because he knows like a walk is coming. We have a golden retriever that we got shortly after, Callaway, who is emotionally attached to the kids.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. He's he's a good dog, but just like a little bit annoying because when they cry, he cries. When they laugh, he cries.

SPEAKER_00

He is barks. Yeah. Barks a lot. Barks and cries. Very friendly dog.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

But empathetic. Very empathetic. And then we got our third dog on an expected trip to Miami when we lived in Key Largo for Valentine's Day. The roads to get out of Key Largo, one was closed, one was extremely backed up. So then we made different plans, stayed on the island, and went to our favorite bar, Jimmy Johnson's Big Chill. The best. No free ads. And we're just sitting there, like, we gotta, like, what if we got another dog? I don't know what brought it up for us, but looked up and there was a litter, and she was the only one left of her litter, but she was born on our anniversary. Yeah. So it kind of like felt like destiny that we palmy girl. Palmy girl. And now we did start recently, not just for babies, but we have fish now. We've had three. Fortunately, they got flushed. Got flushed.

SPEAKER_01

But we have some good ones. Twister's my favorite. Yeah, our kids come up with the name.

SPEAKER_03

So we have Twister. We have um Gilly and Flippy. They're like little catfish. We have Gary the snail and Max and Finny, and then Princess, our neon fish. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

We had Cookie.

SPEAKER_03

It's been fun. Yeah, Cookie's gone. Sally. Sally's R I P.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Who was the other one? Oh, we had Finny one. Oh no, Bubbles. Bubbles. That was it.

SPEAKER_00

We take good care of it. It's just like sometimes when you buy from a store, they're not gonna last.

SPEAKER_03

So all right, you're gonna ask me the wedding questions.

SPEAKER_00

All right. Uh first one. How did you find a reputable planner, especially if you are new to town and don't really know people?

SPEAKER_03

I always say the first best places to look is obviously online. Like you can type in Google wedding planners near me, or if you're online on any social media, you can find a lot of planners on there, like talking about similar to like what I do, talking about what they do or showing their work on Instagram, TikTok, great spots. Um, and then any wedding planner that you're interested in booking, you want to make sure that they're aligned. With your budget and style, and then doing a consultation with them just to make sure the vibes are right. You want to make sure that you mesh well with your planner so it's not a more stressful experience than it has to be.

SPEAKER_00

All right, other one is any advice on how to respond if the bride calls you after the wedding and demands more money than the amount that you had gifted her.

SPEAKER_03

Tell her to put a sock in it. A gift isn't mandatory at a wedding. Of course, like a lot of people, especially in America, will gift something, either from the registry or a monetary gift. But it is so entirely inappropriate to call somebody and say, Oh, you didn't pay me enough for the gift. I'm sorry, it's a gift. They're able to gift whatever they'd like. And if you don't like it, return it. I don't know. There's nothing else to say besides sorry, you're not getting anything else. Don't let people guilt trip you into that. All right, we're doing something a little bit different for our VIP table. We are wearing a wig, so the wigs are still gonna be here. We're we're gonna say goodbye to ABC venue

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SPEAKER_03

for a little bit. Yeah. And we're gonna bring the wigs in. So if you're watching, you can see us in the wig still, just in a different capacity. And today's VIP table is niche things that you do while traveling. And I think these are very personal. Both of us have kind of like personal things that we do.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

All right. My number one pick is when I'm on a work trip and saying to myself, I can totally see myself living here.

unknown

Yes.

SPEAKER_00

I just did one in Dallas, Frisco area. Love the place. And I'm like, man, I can really see myself living here. There is no chance that I will ever live there. But it was nice enough to be like, yeah, I like there.

SPEAKER_03

It's like a short dream. You're like, oh, I I could see that. You're just envisioning it. Yeah. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Okay. Oh, this might be bad, but I'm saying it anyways, because I feel like I do it every single time. Or like if I'm traveling with friends. When you're on the airplane and the flight attendants are giving a very serious safety demonstration, and you pull out the thing and you're like pointing at it, but you're not actually like reading it. You're like joking around. I feel like growing up.

SPEAKER_02

And like if I travel with friends, I always do that. Not with kids, but like now I would. And I'm like, I'm paying attention. Yeah, you're pretending to pay attention, but like you're absolutely not paying attention.

unknown

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_03

I know. It was a bad one, but I had to say it. All right. My next one, it doesn't matter if I'm traveling or flying. This is pretty accurate. I prepare and pack a lot of snacks in my bag. But when the opportunity arises to like buy something at a gas station or get it off something at the plane or in the airport, I'm doing it.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Like I disregard what I have in my bag. At that point, unlimited cash, snacks are flowing in.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Money is not an issue whenever you're traveling and you see a good snack, like, man.

SPEAKER_03

I'm getting that.

SPEAKER_00

That bag of chips looks good. Like, oh, that the Sour Patch kids, I'm craving that right now. I'm getting that. All right, I got two. First one is when you're in the hotel, and then it doesn't really hit until it's time to go to sleep. But then, like, you get mad about the absurd amount of hotel light switches there are in your room. Like, you can turn off one and it does one light only. And then you go to another one, it's just that lamp. And then the other one turns off a light that's on the complete other side of the room.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I like to sleep with majority of the lights off, TVs on. You like TV on on silent. Zero volume. I don't want to listen to anybody while I'm sleeping, but there's always just more light switches than there needs to be.

SPEAKER_02

That happened this past weekend. We were like everywhere. Where's the light switch? You're like getting upset over the light switch.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. My next one is almost, I thought you were about to take it with your last pick, but it's when you're on the plane and you're acting like you're not paying attention when the flight attendants are coming by to drop off snacks, get drink orders. But the moment that they get to Euro, I'm ready to go. I'm looking. Yeah, this is what I want. I've already perused if I wanted to get an adult beverage. Gotta be nonchalant. Nonchalant, but when they get there, I'm ready to go. Yes, that's a good one.

SPEAKER_03

All right. My final two. You arrive to the airport, you check the gate that you're supposed to be at. Let's say it's B eight. You have to physically walk down there and check that the gate is still there. It hasn't gone anywhere. I get down there immediately. Once I see B eight, I'm like, okay, I'm gonna go for a snack. Like, I'm going to do something else. I'm not staying at the gate.

SPEAKER_00

It's on my list. It was on my list as well. You get there early enough to make sure your gate's there.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. You're just confirming that.

SPEAKER_00

Going to do everything else. Sometimes there are issues that the gate does move. But no matter what, that's part of like a checklist that you got to do whenever you're traveling.

SPEAKER_03

And then my last, oh, this is so hard. My last pick is gonna be overpacking like tons of outfits, two outfits per day. But then during the trip, you rewear the same outfit multiple times. It's like your comfort outfit. You're like, oh, I'm gonna, I'm gonna wear this again. I I looked cute in this or I like this outfit. Even though you have a suitcase full of like fresh, different clothes that you could wear.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I do it every trip.

SPEAKER_00

I'll probably wear this. I do check what the weather's like wherever I'm going, but then I get there and I realize like I just packed five different outfits for one night only. I over I'm a I wear daily contacts and I'll pack for a three-day trip 10 contacts. You need underwear. You don't know if you're gonna have an accident in your pants. You gotta overpack. I think I pack like two per day.

SPEAKER_02

Is that one gonna be one of your selections?

SPEAKER_00

No, that's on part of my list. It was kind of it was similar to like what you had. So I'm not gonna take it. Oh.

SPEAKER_03

But I'm just kind of because I did write packing 16 pairs of underwear for a three-day trip. Like I'm gonna poop my pants every night. You got to.

SPEAKER_00

Well, got one more for my last pick is that regret of booking that early morning flight. Because when you book it, you're like, that's not gonna be so bad. And then when it's time to wake up, you're like, why am I out? This is bad. This is bad. And we travel out of Pittsburgh for most of our trips to anywhere. There's probably rare times that we're going to other local airports. But Pittsburgh Airport is bad in the morning. Yes. Every time after that, security, pre-check, uh checking your bag takes a long time. And I'm tired.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Like I'm not the places aren't open yet either to get a cup of coffee.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

And why did I do this to myself? I'll do it for travel trips. And then my worry is when I'm traveling for work and I book an early flight. Because most of the time I get to the point at the end of my travel event and I just want to get home. I want to be home to like you and the kids. So I book the early flight and then I schedule a lift or an Uber early that morning. And then my biggest concern is am I going to get that lift or Uber to get me to the airport?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, are they actually going to show up?

SPEAKER_00

Are they actually going to show up? Am I going to make my flight on time? Do I have a connecting flight? If you have an opportunity to have a direct flight that's later in the day, I would prefer that one. Yeah. All right. Quick ones that I have for my honorable mentions at the kids' table is finally setting the temperature to your liking without a care in the world. Good. At the hotel. Looking out the plane window and giving myself a panic attack, realizing how high up I am. If I'm like windows, I'm usually window seat, so I'm throwing down that shade no matter what for it. But I have that. I'm a fearful of height. So I then think, oh my gosh, we're so high up in the air. And the other one that I have is catching a happy hour at the hotel bar and then asking the bartender for recommendations for places to get food, knowing that this guy's just giving like the bare bone answers for it.

SPEAKER_03

The basic question gets asked it by like a million people. That's such a good one. The only one that actually like doesn't, I had a lot similar to what you had, but the only one that wasn't mentioned was the immediate travel shower. So like after you're on a flight and you get to the hotel or you get home from your flight, it's like, I gotta get in the shower. Gotta get in there. Like I'm like, I gotta wash my body off. And then um, if there's two beds in the room, one bed specifically for suitcases and to lay your clothes on, and the other bed to sleep in. Yeah. Good picks. Those are my other ones. Um, okay. That wraps up that wraps up this episode. And again, if you have any good stories, info at weddingprocast.com and thank you for tuning in.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, make sure that you like it, subscribe, leave a good review, and we'll see you next time.

SPEAKER_03

Bye.